First of all, let me define in one single statement, what Domestic Violence is.
Violence or physical abuse
directed toward your spouse or domestic partner; usually violence by men against women.
Domestic Abuse, Spousal Abuse, Battering, Family Violence, Dating
Abuse, and Intimate Partner
IPV: is a pattern of behavior which involves the abuse by one partner against another in an intimate relationship such as marriage, cohabitation, dating or within the family.
Not wasting any further time in doing technical details which are widely available on the internet, I would like to jump straight on the main cause i.e., Domestic Violence In India.
In a wide terminology, domestic Violence in India is mostly the physical assaults on the housewives more often in stead of dating assaults or live in assaults as we see more common in other countries.
Needless to say, it is an act which is full of shame and sin.
A man assaulting a woman? And calling it his manhood? Being a man I condemn this thinking from the base to top of the head.
Being a man may involve anything but violence.
In India, this assault created so much of impact that even government and other social departments came willingly in protest against it, launching several programs and one of the best known in my head is Bell Bajao program (details in the former link).
But despite of these many efforts nothing ever got changed. Finally, media and government changed their respective focuses over other issues, leaving the women protest aside.
Main cause of failure was that no one wanted to interfere into others’ families due to some social and nevertheless some obvious personal reasons.
Though there is an array of laws against this crime.
I’d like you to know about related laws in as brief as possible.
In 1983, domestic violence was recognised as a specific criminal offence by the introduction of section 498-A into the Indian Penal Code. This section deals with cruelty by a husband or his family towards a married woman. Four types of cruelty are dealt with by this law:
1.) Conduct that is likely to drive a woman to suicide, conduct which is likely to cause grave injury to the life, limb or health of the woman.
2.) Harassment with the purpose of forcing the woman or her relatives to give some property.
3.) Harassment because the woman or her relatives is unable l to yield to demands for more money or does not give some property.
The punishment is imprisonment for upto three years and a fine. The complaint against cruelty need not be lodged by the person herself. Any relative may also make the complaint on her behalf.
These are the few forms of cruelty as recognized by the courts.
1.) Persistent denial of food.
2.) Insisting on perverse sexual conduct.
3.) Constantly locking a woman out of the house.
4.) Denying the woman access to children, thereby causing mental torture.
5.) Physical violence.
6.) Taunting, demoralising and putting down the woman with the intention of causing mental torture.
7.) Confining the woman at home and not allowing her normal social intercourse.
8.) Abusing children in their mother’s presence with the intention of causing her mental torture.
9.) Denying the paternity of the children with the intention of inflicing mental pain upon the mother.
10.) Threatening divorce unless dowry is given.
Yes, courts have done enough, punishment is fine, but?
This but includes several questions running up in my mind.
Some of them are:
Is it really enough?
Ain’t we running away from responsibility as a citizen?
Government have done the duty, but are we, as a society, up to the mark?
How many women do get a chance to lodge a complaint against culprit?
The answers to these questions will bring out nothing but shame.
It is the moral duty of civilians to control the violence occuring in society. Don’t listen to the screams of an assaulted woman and sleep thinking its none of your business, rather ring the bell and serve your duty.
Women are in general physically weaker than the men, they cannot control that violence by themselves, they need support.
Also the victims should be secured if they file a complaint against offender. They should never in any circumstances be forced to live with the offender until court order regarding the case or in other condition, until the divorce/division is held properly.
It is victim’s own choice to stay with the same person or not, also to withdraw the case or not and none of the member from either of the family should be allowed to interfere in her decision (again family issues).
And the measure which need to be taken before all of them is that the conditions should not be allowed, and things should be controlled before they take shape of violence. Every ill mind shows some signs, not only that particular woman but everyone around her should smell the crime and criminal before they come into act.
Psychological distortions can be easily taken out if monitored correctly.
A husband asking for money is an example of that psychic personality and is a sign that this needs to be sorted out, is enough for a woman to act.
On the other hand in an unmarried couple, even a single slap in anger that a girl takes, is the sign that it is not working well and is the time to decide and act strictly regardless of emotions.
But in most of the cases, women are emotional and assume that everything will change with time.
I admit, sometimes it does, but again its a huge risk to stay in that relationship without any measures for caution.
On the closing words of this article, I’d like to say just two words that everyone need to portray and pour down deep in their mind, body, heart and soul.